You need to double down on your consistency

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All right. Welcome back to another episode of the Extreme Lifestyle Live in podcast. Now, this is strictly in audio video, but I am excited to share. We are officially back in the Airbnb that we first came in when we arrived. To Tulum and it just gets me fired up. This one is such a beautiful spot, not that the other one wasn't beautiful, as you know, I've been kind of giving you guys a personal side tangent and journey as to the Airbnbs we've been staying at. But um, you know, we we're traveling a lot and seeing a lot of different areas in Tulum and we just decided to go back to our home base for when we first got here because it's absolutely beautiful. It really is, and I'm just looking around at the scenery. I'm just so happy to be here. Super fucking happy to be here and just grateful. Honestly, we're gonna stay here next month as well. Then we're home for Christmas and then, uh, we're gonna come back in that new year as well. And, you know, if all goes well, we'll be back in this exact same unit. But nonetheless, let's jump in Today's episode, which is the topic is doubling down on your consistency. And the reason why I wanna talk about this is because, you know, there's like kind of three. Easy avenues of success. You know, number one or three steps, I should say. Step one is like, you know, formulating a plan and realizing you need a plan, you know, and wanting change. You know, you, in order to get somewhere you haven't been before, you gotta admit to yourself you need a change. You gotta admit to yourself you don't know how to get there, and you gotta admit to yourself that you need a game plan, you know? So number one, when you're trying to change your life, that very first initial step is embracing your insecurities, embracing your, your traumas, embracing who you are as a person, and really kind of under trying to understand like who you are. Within that change in itself. And you know, I think a big thing that we all kind of struggle with is, you know, if that's the hardest step, is accepting where we are right now is not where we want to be. Accepting who we are right now isn't who we need to become for the journey that we want to go towards. And you know. Then eventually we lead into step two, which is, you know, you formulate a game plan, you start showing up for your game plan, and you start trying to create the life you deserve, let's say, on three different avenues when you're, you have a game plan, it's usually a physical game plan to feel better physically in the mirror, more confidence, you know, usually it's an in interpersonal relationship with yourself, making sure you have more confidence and self-esteem to make sure that you can navigate your emotions, your anxieties and depressions a little bit better self-esteem, making sure you can show up in different rooms better, and you know, again. When step one, when you realize you're not who you want to become in this life, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, there becomes that other avenue as well of really needing to, you know, like I said, get that game plan of becoming that person you want to become. So then step two, when you start to indulge in that person and you know, create a. More like, not say create, but bridge those gaps as to your insecurities and be more confident. Bridge those gaps in your physical issues that you're not really confident with and you know, working out to get better and control over that. You know, especially when it comes to finances in your career and you know, let's say who you are as a person. If you're angry all the time, you're depressed all the time, you have anxiety all the time, you know, you start actively working towards that person, which is step. You know, being part of the game plan and really trying to create things to fruition, you know, and if you guys have been here for a while, I kind of talk about that a lot in a lot more in depth and in more of an in depth avenue. Like, like I said, you know, at the beginning when I wanted to start this life and, you know, move to Tulum and have my business and, you know, me and Emma have this freedom. I started off with a plan. I started off with embracing my emotions, my depressions, my my depression, my anxiety, my traumas, and really trying to formulate a plan as to who I was within the life that I already had. And then admitting to myself, I didn't wanna be that person. And then it was two, three years of showing up consistently every day, every week, every month, of just trying to change, you know, which is step number two, right? You're in that change. You're weathering the storm, you're showing up, you're creating change, and you really have no idea what you're doing. You know, you don't know if anything's gonna work out. You know, you're track, let's say from a simplicity, stand sake. Um, you're, you're tracking your macros, you're showing up in the gym, but you have a, you have yet to see the success you want physically, emotionally, in that regard. You know, you're doing a lot of these things with the hopes that you're gonna become a better version of yourself. You're doing a lot of these things with the hopes that you're gonna gain that physical version of yourself, that you seek that confident version of, of from a physical side in the mirror. Same with your anxiety, same with your depression. Like, you know, let's say you're going through trauma. You're figuring out your mental health. You're like, you know, things that you've been through and you know why you feel certain ways. Like it doesn't just change with a snap of a finger. As soon as you figure out what it is, like, you know, especially with anxiety and self-esteem issues, like you're not just confident overnight, you know? So step two, after you have the game plan is showing up and really creating, trying to create that change. Step number three from a simplicity stand stake is, you know, you start to see the change. You start to feel better physically in the mirror. You start to see some results. You have more systemized routines with your, your nutrition and gain a little bit of confidence. You know, let's say with your career or your education, you got more, um, you know, your, let's say you progress further. You're not just year one in your program or you two, your program, you know, you're halfway through it weathering the storm. And same with your physical goals, right? You're, you're at the halfway point, you know, and then that's where you start to materialize things in your life. Like and other simplicity's sake, you know, from a boundary perspective as a human, you know, when you decide to go to the gym for the first time and you know, protect your energy and space in that regard, there comes to a point where you start to gain people around you that are doing the same thing as you, that respect you for what you're doing. And then there's also a part where you have to deny a lot of people because they don't respect what you're doing. They don't respect the hustle, and they just truthfully just don't care about it. For themselves, which is a whole other conversation, which is okay. It doesn't mean you're less than or better than none, nonetheless, it just means you're outgrowing certain people, outgrowing old versions of yourself. So to kind of reiterate it, to kind of give you that bird's eye view before I get into the topic is, um. You know, step one is like embracing who you wanna become, realizing you're not who you wanna become and trying to get a game plan. Step two is actually showing up for that game plan, trying to create change, and trying to create, you know, all the levels of life that you want. And step three is like, you know, then navigating your life with some of this change and trying to figure out like this new version of yourself. And then to be honest, you repeat those three processes.'cause every single, there's a quote. New levels, bring on new devils. So as you get to new levels and new heights in your life, there's gonna be parts of you that need to again, go back that you're not happy with the version that you've became. You're a lot happier than you used to be, but there's still versions of yourself that you need to get rid of. You know, especially from a boundary standpoint, especially when you like get confidence, you're gonna realize that deep rooted insecurities that you have from a self-esteem issues, from confidence issues, and really like your boundaries as to how you protect yourself and protect the people around you. Which leads me to the topic, which is doubling down on your consistency. Because a lot of you guys that listen to this podcast either work with me or have worked with me, work with me. We have conversations online and the biggest thing is like, you know, a lot of you guys are where you used to, you prayed to be, you know, a lot of you guys have progressed in the gym. A lot of you guys have progressed mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Where you, where you are now is, is light years ahead of where you used to be. You have way less depression. You're a lot more abundant and a lot more fulfilled in life. You have way less anxiety because you're a lot more fulfilled with life and excited as to what's going on. You're in a way better. But way better physical shape. Yeah. You may not be where you want to be a hundred percent, but you are so much closer to the end goal than you were at the starting point. And that's the biggest thing where you almost get lost. You know? It's like almost like, how do I continue this journey? And one of my, uh, I had a really good conversation. With somebody that I know that, you know, when I first met him, he was like doing well. He had his own business. He was in relatively good shape, but he wasn't happy with where he was at. He's been, he had a game plan. He was embracing his insecurities, he was showing up as himself, but he got, you know, he got lost in the translation of really weathering the storm of that change. And to give you a perspective, we all been through science class growing up in school and they talk about like, you know, the eye of the storm, the hurricane comes through, there's the eye of the storm where there's a lot of calm and a lot of peace. You know, step one and step two is really weathering the first part of the storm. You know, your, your, your emotions are heightened. You're insecure, you're stressed out a little bit because you're trying to formulate this change. And then when you get the game plan, you start showing up for the game plan. You start seeing some change and start feeling better about yourself. You get into the eye of the storm. But then again, when you're eye the, when you're in the eye of the storm, you're feeling really confident about your life. You're feeling good, but then there's still a little bit of a. And asterisk, if you will, of like, well, I still want this, I still wanna be better in the gym this way. I still wanna be better emotionally this way, still wanna be better financially this way, and I still wanna have less anxiety or less depression and, and, and, uh, respect my boundaries this way. So then you go back to step one, formulate another game plan, and then it's like, how do I continue going forward? And the only way to go forward is to weather the other part of the storm and get through the rest of the hurricane and get to the other end of your goals. And that's just part of the journey, which is why I'm saying. Doubling down on your consistency is the only way to continue that momentum, to continue that, continue that growth, and continue to shine as bright as you can. Because the harsh reality of changing your life, it's not hard. It's very simple. You embrace who you, you embrace who you are and admit that you don't, you're not who you want to be, become, or you're not who you, you are who you wanna become. Yet, you know, you look in the mirror, you say, ah, I'm not happy with how I look. You look at your friend group. You look at your boundaries, you admit your anxieties to yourself and your traumas, and you know how much weight of the world you're carrying, and then you formulate a game plan to show up. It's simple. The difficult part is staying consistent with it and embracing it and assuming that it's a transactional process that when you get to the eye of the storm for the first time and feel a little bit of peace, feel a little bit of like fulfillment from your guys' work that it's like, well, how do I like, you know, this is it. You know? I thought I feel a lot better, and a prime example I share a lot is, you know, for me and Emma was like. Again, not the financial freedom, it was the freedom within our life. You know, not being able, not having to listen to anyone else about like going to work. And you know, like everyone knows what it's like. You wake up, you have anxiety, you have depression, you're struggling mentally, and you have to call work and you know, almost use a sick day and almost be ridiculed for using a sick day because you mentally don't feel good. And how do you talk to somebody about that in a world where most people don't understand it, you know? So it's like. The freedom was our biggest avenue of what we were chasing. And I'll be honest, when I got my first year of freedom and like, you know, I, it was the hardest year of my life because I was just met with. All of the expectations I thought was gonna happen, which is why I'm bringing up the transactional side of things. There's not a point A plus. Point B equals point C. You don't just show up, change your life and it's that easy. It is to a degree on paper, but there's a lot of emotions, there's a lot of trauma, there's a lot of expectations, a lot of self disappointment, uh, disappointment. And you know, I've talked about your expectations in terms of your realities. And you know, that's the killer of all joy, honestly, is you know, when your expectations don't meet your reality. And nine times outta 10 is because our expectations are. Ridiculously high. And we want, we just expect so much out of ourselves, which is a great thing. It's just something we need to manage. But again, the game plan doesn't change. You know, if you wanna get in better shape, the hardest part is starting. So to continue getting in bed shape, best shape in, in the best shape of your life is to do the same shape you've been doing and just take you to the next level. When it comes to the gym, it's like, you know, there was a point in your life where you weren't even consistent going all the time. So then it's like the consistency in the gym never changes. It's just your education, your experience, and your commitment to the gym and your intentions behind it changes. Same thing if you wanna have a more of a financial abundant future, like, you know, showing up and getting education, working in self development, challenging people around you and. Taking courses and like I said, getting education and doing these mentor programs and putting yourself in a position to try to make more money. It doesn't change. You just show up in the arena and continue to do it. It's just your, your intention around it becomes higher. You know, your efforts become higher. Everything just gets a little bit more aligned with who you are as a person, which is the other side of that, still what I'm talking about. Same with boundaries. You know, it's very easy, let's say simplicity's sake. You know, let's say you're drinking all the time doing drugs and you're not really happy. You have a lot of anxiety. You know, like you're carrying things from the past, a little bit depressed. All you gotta do is create a boundary, create a day-to-day, week to week, month to month routine so you can stay outta that position. But then again, that's only on paper. It's not transactional. You notice like, Hey, I'm, I'm happy now. I'm fulfilled, I'm, I have confidence. And it goes away. There's gonna be days you're stressed out. There's gonna be days that that stuff kind of comes up and, you know, like, again, like you get stressed out. You're gonna have depression, sym depression symptoms. You're gonna have anxiety, you're gonna have this turmoil, you still gotta get through. But it's all about the consistency around the day-to-day habits. And not really changing the game plan per se, but making the intention and the effort around that game plan in itself that much better for yourself. And the biggest thing that I can say, like, you know, from my standpoint doing this for about three to five years now, I never really know how long I've been doing it. I feel like I've been doing it for like eight years, but it's only been COVID. It's 2025. I've only been doing this full time for like two and a half years now. I actually looked back on the numbers and I actually thought I was doing it for three and a half. Four years, but I've been doing this full-time for two and a half years. It's not that long. So my expectations were I was supposed to be a lot further, and then I got into my head thinking I need to do something different and change things up. And I didn't need to change anything. I needed to double down on the consistency around all of these areas of my life. You know, if you wanna be more fulfilled, you know, practice your faith more, you wanna be more fulfilled and happy, and, and have more joy in your life, then you gotta continue to show up for yourself to challenge what that looks like for your life. And it's the same as the beginning. You know what I mean? If you want to get in better shape, it's the same thing in the beginning. You better be consistent. You gotta continue to track your macros. You gotta be consistent in tracking your food and all of these different things. And that's the biggest thing I want you guys to take outta this episode. Just short, sweet, and impactful is, you know, to get to the other side of the storm, to let the hurricane of, you know, your change of your life to completely surpass you and you hit that next level of life you want to, it just being consistent on the same shit you have been doing. Except the second part of the storm. Getting from the eye of the storm through the second leg of the storm to get rid of it entirely is just being incredibly in tune with yourself as to exactly what that looks like and doing it even when it's hard. You know? That's why a lot of people fall off their fitness goals is because they think it's a transactional process. They think they can show up, get in the best shape of their life, and then they're done. There's so many people that have joined my program and MS program that you know. I wanna lose 10 to 15 pounds, they lose it and then they're done. It's like, no. It's like now the next stage is keeping that off. The next stage is being able to eat your cake and be able to keep that off. And there's so many other levels that can go into it. But you know, doubling down your, doubling down on your consistency is probably the best thing that you guys can do. And it's simple, you know?'cause again, if you guys have been doing this for a year, like a year, two years, three years, you don't have to fucking change the thing. You just gotta do the same shit you've been doing every single motherfucking day. It's just, you gotta learn who you are more throughout that process and be more proud of that person. And that's pretty much it. So other than that, I hope you guys got some takeaways from this short and sweet episode. Um, it's something that I've been kind of holding close to my vest lately, just being super consistent as to what I've been doing. And at the end of the day, if you've been doing this for a while, you don't have to fucking change anything. It's super, super simple. The difficult part is just realizing who you are throughout everything that you're evoking doing. Um, so I appreciate you guys all. Thanks for tuning in as per usual, and keep showing up, leading from the motherfucking front and setting that goddamn fucking standard. Let's go.