Recovery & Stress Management

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All right. Welcome back to another episode of the Extreme Lifestyle Living Podcast. Now, I'll be honest, I'm gonna share a little bit of vulnerability, some vulnerable stuff with everybody today, and I, I always do. So it's not anything off the, anything that's too crazy. But obviously if you guys are weekly listeners, as most of you guys are, and I appreciate you guys. So fucking much for tuning in every single weekend. Um, and just like, you know, gimme feedback like this podcast has been the backbone of my entire community, my entire business. And it's the most, it means the most to me as much as I don't promote it or like go off a boat, you know, like different avenues of how I probably should lead from the front with the podcast. But, um, I'm trying the back end of my life, the back end of my business and doing other things in my life to make it more of something that I. Just talk about more, you know, but when it comes to running a business and trying to get things in certain areas, like the, the statistics show that there's two sides of it that I'm gonna share with you guys. Number one, the whole like virality side of running an online business being. Um, like, you know, in terms of views, engagement is the lowest. So the podcast posts, the podcast reels. Those things get the lowest from new eyes standpoint, so it's not that popular in terms of the world compared to some other content that I can post. So when I'm running a business, it's hard to balance that. When it's like I want to be as authentic to myself as I can, but when it comes to the engagement to my actual community and my people that I hang with in terms of my clients, the people I chat with on the dms and just the community on Instagram, it gets the most engagement from there and the most, the most fulfilling conversations. And it just opens up the most doorways from that standpoint, which is why I love to make sure I still make some posts about it. Every now and then, so what I did last week was I tried to take it to another level. Like obviously I've been trying to do the videos for a long time and they take a lot of effort to be honest. And it's not that I'm not putting enough effort into, it's just trying to find the right avenue of how I can systemize it in my day-to-day, week to week life without causing a lot of grief, um, on other areas of my life, which is a big area that if you're running your own business, you understand. Things have to be scalable. You what I mean by that? It's no different than your nutrition. It just, it's no different than your workouts and setting boundaries for the build a life that you want. You have to be able to set things up that's routine, it's systemized and you can make it a habit. You know, when it comes to the podcast, there's a lot of extra stuff that comes with it that ends up taking areas or time out of other areas of my life, and it becomes hard to balance, to be completely honest. Um, but last week I tried to do a new style of content. I noticed that again, the engagement side of my podcast is. Hi. With the people that I'm already chatting with, it doesn't get new eyes on me. It's not like if I go with like the, the theoretically speaking, if I was to go sit aside and just like, you know, do become a gym bro. A lot of people would stop and look and ask what I was doing. But if I go outside and start talking about my podcast, it's like not as many people would stop and ask me what I was doing. And from a business standpoint, to be completely honest, that's not that beneficial to, you know, scale your business. And obviously I'm trying to grow my community as best as I, as best as I can. So I have to find that optimal balance. But if I share my podcast, it connects and relates to so many more people, so then I gain more relationships, which is what I want. Like I don't wanna work with just anybody. I wanna work with people that wanna be the best versions of themselves, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. So the people that do listen to my podcast, like, you guys know, I got You. Just that You got me. And it's like a, you know, we're all, it's a total team effort. We're all pulling on the same rope. We all wanna be the best versions of ourself and it's just great to see that comradery amongst each other, especially when it's all over the world. Um, so I try to do something new last week, um, where I recorded a video podcast, but I tried to script it a little bit more.'cause nine times outta 10, I don't script these podcasts. I just turn the mic on, I have my, my subjects and I just go off on the topics. That is it.'cause I have a lot of passion behind it. And I would like to say I can articulate myself in a different manner. And in that in itself, when I review the podcast and post it and upload it, I learn a lot about myself now when I try to systemize it and talk a certain way and talk about certain subjects and have a certain way that I'm trying to like, you know, bring it to light to make it a little bit more scalable from the standpoint of like, you know, marketing standpoints. I just, it just ruins it for me. It just absolutely fucking takes all of the steam over the engines, if that makes sense. And it just is super fucking frustrating. And I recorded a 20, 25 minute episode last week. I was trying to get a lot of clips within that episode to post online to share what I was talking about, and it's a little bit different style than the videos that I have been posting online. So, not that this is relevant for anybody's life, but again, to share the back end of my life. To be more vulnerable with you guys is, you know, lose you. I just shoot it landscape for the video to be on on YouTube, so when I do sit down and put the effort and time to upload on my video podcast, I can do that right now. However, this one I wanted to make it a different style of video just for social media clips and use a little bit of a script to try to use verbiage just statistically speaking a little bit more. Attractable or a little bit more, what's the right word I'm trying to say a little bit more. Scalable is the only, only thing I can think about right now for online, and I fucking hated it. I hate it every fucking second I've ever viewed it. I got some clips, I looked at it, I fucking hated it. I don't want to post it. I didn't even post episode last week. I just said, fuck it entirely. And I just doubled down on other things that I knew were going well and how I felt about them. Now, is this subjective to my opinion? 100%. Is there 90% of that episode that I could release and chat about? Um, that most of you guys wouldn't even know anything that I'm talking about? Of course, you know, but again, when you're trying to be the best version of yourself and push new levels, push new boundaries. That's just part of the process, you know, that's just part of the process in terms of like, you know, learning and trying to do new things, and I just didn't like the authenticity. I didn't feel while having that. So I'm gonna completely scrap it. Go back to the audio podcast because I get a lot of, I get a lot of fulfillment from these. Like right now I'm just walking around to my Airbnb unit. Recording my podcast talking about this, and I'm gonna share the topic with you guys in a second that's related to this. Um, and that it's fun. I get a lot of fulfillment. I have, it's, it's just therapeutic for me. Doing that video side, trying to articulate myself in a certain manner that didn't feel authentic was like pulling fucking teeth. I hated it. And the reason why I shared that with you guys is because. You guys just gotta do stay true to who you are as people you know. Not everyone's gonna understand who you are when you're trying to focus on your fitness goals. Not everyone's gonna try to understand you when you have different goals with your nutrition or boundaries, and protect your grace and your peace around what you're doing with what you're doing in your life. Not everyone's gonna understand the goals that you're trying to achieve when it comes to being the best version of yourself, when that's fucking okay. But when you understand who you are amongst what you're doing, that's what matters most. A lot of us are in huge transitions in our life. You know, prime example when, when it comes to our careers, when you guys are career driven individuals and you guys, you know, get, you guys get promotions, you guys get new pay raises, you guys get new areas of opportunity within your career, there's a lot of things that change, you know, so your identity is changing. Do you know, we talked about this on the Monday night huddle as about aligning your identity. Through, you're becoming same with fitness goals. There was a point when none of you guys even worked out, or none of you guys even focused on tracking macros and you know, being this level of version of your guys selves within the fitness side of life that you guys are achieving to be. So, your identity changes and the core of your identity always stays the same. Do you know what I mean? The core of who you are as a person always stays the same. You're never really gonna change that. You know, it's the same thing with your mental health. Like if you have anxiety, you have depression, you have confidence issues, like that's never gonna change 100%. There's gonna be days where those demons come up and they, they struggle. Or they make you struggle and you battle and it's fucking normal. That's the whole point of life, is balancing that stress load, that stress output when you're putting in so much effort in work. Do you know what I mean? But at the end of the day, who you are as a person is never gonna change. So I'm gonna try to completely reroute this entire avenue of the podcast because I just love doing the audio, and I think it's so much more impactful and the message just gets off a lot more stronger. And I care more about that than views or engagement or scaling my business. I'd rather have five people here in my podcast and feel absolutely fucking fired up than try to make 15 people happy. Five is fucking perfect. Two is fucking perfect.'cause that's how I started this. I started this entire journey by wanting to be the change amongst the masses in terms of what I was struggling with. And I always say this, I was on a call the other day and it's, it's a little bit cheesy, but I want it to be the change. That I wanted to see be the change. You wanted to see that entire Gandhi quote, that Gandhi mantra like, and it's true, you know, so when it comes to your purpose, you guys go, uh, gotta always double down on to keeping your purpose really, really authentic with who you are and be unapologetic about it. Which leads me, today's podcast is just, is kind of related, kind of not, but recovery, recovery and stress management. At the end of the day, we are all fucking. Ambitious fucking people. We want the best versions of ourselves. We want to be mentally the best versions of ourself. We want no stress. We wanna look in the mirror, be absolutely fucking proud. We wanna make money to live financially abundant, to do what we want, when we want, how we want. We want to be in the best fucking shape we want. Do you know what I mean? We want all of the fucking good things, and who doesn't, you know? But at the end of the day, we only have so much time each day. We only have so much time each week. We only have so much time each month. We only have so much time on this fucking planet to really put in that work. And at the end of the day, some days you're gonna have to like, you know, put your hands up in the air and just call the day, regardless of how you feel about it. And what I mean by that is, let's say we all, we all work. Career driven jobs, we're all working a lot. Whether it's 40 hours a week, 50 hours a week, 60 hours a week, 70 hours a week. We're working a lot for the thing, you know, to keep our financial abundance up, to have a level of life that we deserve. You know, we're taking education, we're taking courses, we're taking certificates, we're studying, so that take, that's another layer on top of working to get financial compensation, to build the life you want. You got family, you got friends. That's another layer. On top of the life that you are building, you go to the gym, you track your nutrition, you meal prep, you protect your boundaries, you try to fill your own cup. That is another layer on top of everything that we're building. And when we get, I don't wanna say over ambitious, but if we don't focus on the stress management, we don't focus on understanding that recovery is part of the process. Giving yourself time off, giving yourself time to yourself, giving yourself time to sleep. Go out with your boys and have wing nights. Go with your friends and, you know, have a glass and bottle of wine and get fucking, I don't wanna say drunk, but enjoy the fruits of your fucking labor. Stay up late one night'cause you're hanging with your friends and the time's going great. You know, maybe hang with your family member. Shut off your fucking phone and, you know, not worry about the life. Or, you know, maybe it is that, um, at, at your career. Maybe it is letting something at work slide a little bit just because it is what it is and you can only put so much time and effort into things. But recovery and stress management is just as part of the process, as showing up in the gym. It's just as much of the process as it is tracking your nutrition and tracking your macros and looking at your, you know, doing meal prep. It's just as important as trying to be the best version of yourself. And the reason why I, I wanna hit this so hard for you is three reasons. Number one, last three or four days, I was super burnt out Saturday, I had to take time off today. I didn't even get outta bed I think until 10, 10 30, um, which is crazy fucking late for me. Like crazy fucking late for me. Like I have a ton of anxiety when that happens and I needed to just give myself that time down. I feel a lot better. I was getting a fucking migraine. My shoulders and my, my traps, like that's usually where I carry my stress. We're aching and I was just trying to juggle too many things and I, I like, again, going back to the podcast and trying to systemize it and grow to a different level. I got lost in the sauce. Like, you know, sometimes we get so ambitious and kind of like, there's like want to do so much that we have to realize how much time we actually have in the run of a day. We only have 24 hours and you know, most of us here, you know, let's say 24 hours, take away. Eight hours of sleep. We have 16 hours, take away another eight hours of working. Do you know what I mean? That's eight hours left. You have in the day, That's eight hours left in the run of a day and you have eight hours to get to the gym and you have eight hours to do meal prep. You have eight hours to fill your club. You have eight hours to hang with your friends and family. You have eight hours to do all these different things and it's fucking stressful. So not every day can look the same, but what you do have to understand is kind of similar to your purpose, is you gotta understand the recovery and you understand the stress management is part of the fucking picture. So that's number one. Number two is you can read as many case studies as you want about, you know. People that are older, elderly people, what their number one regret is. Their number one regret is always two things. It's always they wish they didn't work as much and they wish. The second thing is they always wish they fucking enjoyed their life more. I'm living in Mexico right now. I'm looking outside, looking at a bunch of beautiful trees. There's 35 fucking degrees outside at home. Right now. It is round. It's about to be Halloween. Um, this Friday,'cause this is being released on the Sunday and it's like fucking 10 degrees out, I think, you know, so it's 2025 degrees hotter here, and the people are wearing sweaters, they're wearing coats, like, you know, there's frost warnings in the morning sometimes. And, you know, I've built my life single handedly to get here. And me being so worried about the next level and getting every single task done each day, I forget about that. You know, and today being Sunday, I have a lot more on my plate than I can handle and I got to adjust, or I'm gonna bleed that into the week. So, you know what I mean? And you know, going back to enjoying your life, like, you know, we're gonna get older one these days, it's gonna happen inevitably. You know, I'm 31 right now and you know, we can all remember when we were 14 years old and just in middle school grade seven, eight, or nine, you know, just running rampant in that life. We can all remember when we were in grade 10, 11, and 12 in high school, figuring out that life we can all remember graduating high school. What the fuck do we do next? We getting a university, college or like, you know, some type of job. And then, you know, between graduating high school and towards until you're 25, you have no fucking clue what's going on. So it's like we're gonna get older. Regardless. It's gonna happen. Whether you do something with energy of like stress management or just like stress yourself with every day to be the best version of yourself, that time is gonna pass. And people always regret not enjoying it as much, you know, so the fact that you are on the, the right trajectory of your life, you are putting effort and time into showing up in the gym, showing up with track your nutrition, protecting your boundaries, you know, protecting energy around your family and friends. That is all in itself the best version of you right now. And you gotta carve out time for your stress management and your recovery. And the last thing is, what's the point of showing up? Like the third thing, what's the point of fucking showing up and stressing yourself out? Raising your cortisol levels, fucking up your hormone imbalances and, and you know, making your entire body go into shambles if you're not gonna at least en enjoy the life that you're building and have built. Yeah, you may not be in the best financial position that you wanna be in. I can say that as well. But that doesn't mean you're not gonna get there, and that doesn't mean you haven't grown since when you started. Yeah, you may look in the mirror. It's say, oh, I need to gain more lean muscle tissue. I need to lose more body fat, or I need to run a little bit longer, or need to work out a little bit more or more routinely and be more X, Y, and z, whatever it may be for you. But that doesn't mean you're not on the right trajectory to get to that version of yourself. And that also doesn't mean you haven't started that journey to be the best version of yourself to this date. Do you know what I mean? Same with nutrition. We can all beat our ourself up about nutrition to be completely transparent, quarter after 2:00 PM right now, and I haven't had a single fucking calorie today, like that's not fucking good. I've had. Four shots of espresso. I've had two Americanos and I've had, um, maybe not like a half a liter of water. Like I'm not doing too good. Do you know what I mean? And it all goes back to the relation of this podcast that I'm trying to share with you guys, that stress management and recovery is just as important. And even at the level that I'm playing at, being in charge of 50 plus fucking clients every single day, every single week with their health and fitness, I struggle with that too. And it's just part of the game. Do you know what I mean? So we gotta understand that where we are now is still farther than we've ever been in our life. And that in itself gotta give us grace. That in itself has to give us some power. Do you know? So we have to schedule our recovery, schedule our stress management, and take those protocols just as serious as we do, tracking our macros, just as serious as we do, showing up in the gym and just as serious as we do with every other goal that we have in our life. You know? And without taking the time to appreciate who we are as people down to our core, what the fuck's the point of anything? And that's the reason why I wanted to share all that with you guys, because even though I am an authority to a lot of you guys, I am showing up on paper. Or social media may made me, may make me look like I'm showing up a lot more than you guys in certain areas. The only thing that changed this that's different between me and you is the consistency. Being in the gym, you know, the big thing is what the, the gym as an example, like most people are like, oh, how'd you get in good shape? And all these different things. I've just never stopped since I was 21. Yet I'm still here in the gym over 10 years of being 100% committed. I've been in the gym since I was 14, so I'm over a half of my lifetime in the gym. So that's a lot of consistency. A lot of you guys don't have, so all I'm doing is showing up more. So add that time into your guys' life. It was boom. Same thing. Same with your financial goals. Same with every other goal. And you know, I've been in the gym for 10 years working with coaches, working with nutrition protocols, working with bodybuilding and all these different things, and I'm still sitting here quarter after two on this fucking Sunday. Not one ounce of calories in me, and I'm peak bulking right now. I got 3500, 3700 calories I gotta get in today. Do you know what I mean? Me even saying that out loud is like, fuck man, that's stressful and I got six other things I gotta do today. Me and Emma got a couple plans as to what we want to do, and it's like, how do I juggle all that? Do you know what I mean? And it's because you gotta have your stress protocols and your recovery protocols in play just as important as fucking everything else, you know? And I think that's just really eyeopening for all of you guys. That's what I want to share and alongside share with you guys what I was going through with the podcast because, um, it just shows that vulnerability just because you guys, maybe there's no graduation with your goals. There's no. Okay. I crossed my t, I dotted my I, I got it done. There's no checkbox where you fucking wake up and you've got it done. It's a continuation of growth. It's a continuation of commitment. It's a continuation of a grind. Even looking in the mirror, being proud of yourself. You are gonna be more proud of yourself and you are gonna get that validation. But it's not a just, you got it in, it's done. You're always gonna have to put in the work, which is why you're gonna enjoy the work that you're doing that much more, to get that much more abundance and grace within your life and peace, because we're all gonna get old one day, look back on our life, and we're always gonna be exposed to the true depths of what we didn't focus on. Which is why I want this to be a reminder. So what I want you guys to do this week, last full week of fucking October, this Friday is Halloween. It is crazy that it is almost, it is like this week, this time next week, I'll be released in my first episode in November. That's fucking bonkers To me. That's bonkers. Like it's crazy. November and then December, and then it's 2026. 20, 20 fucking six. I feel like I'm still living my life in 2020 or 2017 for fuck's sakes. You know what I mean? Um, so reflect on that much more of your recovery. Reflect on that much more of your protocol. Reflect that much more this week on being proud of what you guys have done the first 10 months of this year. And take this energy and. Into the last two months of the year. Give yourself that extra rest. Give yourself that extra grace. Give yourself that extra time down to yourself to enjoy the fruits of your labor and let's close out this year. Fucking beautiful.'cause there's no point in showing up and beating our heads into the fucking ground if we're not gonna enjoy what we're doing nonetheless. So I appreciate you guys all, I was a little ranty at the beginning, but I just want you to really share that. That's just the depth as to what I struggle with every single day, regardless of how great my life is and how I struggle too. In the trenches with you guys, with your mental health, your emotional health, your, your goals, your fitness, your nutrition, your physical goals and everything that, everything in that regard. And we're all just fucking human. So let's show the fuck out. Let's keep bleeding from the front and let's fucking go.