Stop expecting change to feel easy

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All right. Welcome back to another episode of the Extreme Lifestyle Living Podcast. Now it is absolutely insane to see that I've been running this podcast for three, I think upwards of four years. I'm gonna have to get the actual start date and, you know, start in the, uh, when I get that information, I'll put it into the next episode.'cause, um, you know, just even reviewing, like I just made a post on Instagram just reviewing that. This is the third year in a row that me and Emma have been embarking on this journey of being our own bosses. it's crazy to see like how it feels like it's been a lifetime, but it really has only been a, like a short time. Short time. And the reason why that's important to highlight during this episode is because, you know, we didn't, it's, it's, it's, I don't wanna, I am trying to make this like, not a long-winded, but you know, where we are right now isn't 110% where we said we were gonna be. And the reason why that's important is because the topic of today's ex, uh, episode is you gotta stop expecting change to feel easy. Like real transformation feels uncomfortable until it becomes your habit. It becomes your routine, it becomes who you are as a person. So you gotta stop expecting change to feel easy or be easy on any, any areas. And the reason why I say that is because, you know, having an idea is what you want to do and where you want to be is always how you start. Now where you end up may not be where you think you are gonna be. You know, getting to, if that makes sense. Like where I'm at right now with me and or me and Emma are at, um, like it's exceeded our expectations. So as you grow. And develop. So what does your, your goals, everything grows with you, you know, like, and as you achieve goals and you build momentum and you really start to see how much you know, what you're capable of, obviously you're gonna up the ante a little bit. And it's not about upping the ante and, um, you know, like in significantly ways that are gonna, like, hurt you. Like, you know, if you make, if it's a money thing, it's not like you're, I wanna make home for a billion dollars. Like, versus just freedom, then you get freedom. You don't wanna get greedy with goals, I guess is what I'm saying. But, um, the reason I'm highlighting that is because, you know, it feels like a lifetime. That we've been on this journey of progressive developments in every area of our lives, right? And you know, as much as I wanna talk about Stop Expecting things to be Easy, in the topic of that, I wanna break it down from like what's hard versus difficult and those different things. And you'll get a lot of context as to what I mean with that. But the reason I'm highlighting is because you gotta show up every single fucking day. That is the baseline for every fucking goal. Like even with work, you show up every single day and then you get X amount of money. When you go to the gym, you show. X amount of time in the gym, you get X amount of time back, like, or, uh, results back. Like, it just, that's just the frequency you gotta understand. So this concept that, you know, it's gonna get easy or it's just like, you know, the load or the stress of what you're under, like what you're going through is gonna get better. It's going to get better from the standpoint of you're gonna understand and get used to it and get comfortable in the chaos, but the concept of you growing and wanting to be the best version of yourself and continuously changing or cha continuously chasing new hi, newer heights in life. That's always gonna be there. You're always gonna push yourself to be the best version of yourself. So technically you're always gonna be under that stress of trying to perform. Now it's really just on you to understand what side of the fence are you performing on. And what I mean by that is, again, going back to the goals. Now, the realistic, because we can all sit here and like Abso, like try our absolute hardest to put in the work. But if it's something that's not aligned to us or what we want, then we're never going to. Really know what the fuck that, like where we're at. We're always just gonna be, you know, always feeling like the glass is half full because we don't really know how to fill it up. So a long-winded rant didn't really mean to go into it that much, but just don't underestimate what you're capable of in a short amount of time. When you commit to doing the work every single day and every single week and accumulates it compounds, and then before you know it, you're in a position of life that you never even thought was fucking imaginable. You're doing things in life that's incomprehensible to the, even just when you started. So. You know, to, to transition to the topic of just like stop expecting change. To feel easy is just aim high and focus on today. And before you know it, you'll be so much further in life than you've ever realized. And that's why I wanted to share that part because it feels like we've been doing this forever, but we really haven't. And when you think about a short amount of time, two, three years. Two, three years is all it took to get to where we are now. If you're willing to commit every single day and start showing up and compound your life successes as well, to get these lifestyle changes and be able to take advantage of the opportunities once they present themselves to continue to grow to this level, then you'll see that as well, and it's inevitable because, like I said, as long as you commit to the goal and understand it's never gonna be easy within reason. Then you're always gonna see success and to break it down more. This is what I mean about hard versus difficult. So like it's hard waking up at 6:00 AM to train. It's hard waking up. 6:00 AM to stay disciplined. It's hard to get up at 6:00 AM or 5:00 AM or 4:00 AM and stick to your morning routines and discipline. But what's difficult is waking up at 9:00 AM disappointed in yourself. What's difficult is continuously hitting snooze and continuously hitting, um, putting off different, um, goals and aspirations. And also just side tangent, I was sick all week. I still am a little bit sick, so that's why I'm a little bit long-winded. Um, it's fucking was brutal. Three days down in the dumps, it fucking sucked. But you know, we're back. So talking is a little bit stressful on my body. So it's been, it's been hard, but you know, I'm back at it. I'm showing up and you know, I did what I had to do to recover. So, you know, just went to side tangent that'cause I am a little bit outta breath right now. Um, but when it comes to hard versus difficult, like everything that the path of freedom and the path to transform your life and the path to, uh, change your fucking life and accomplish all your goals is uncomfortable. But it's just hard. It's not difficult. It's hard. Waking up at 6:00 AM Yes, but it's difficult hating who you are because you get up at 9:00 AM instead, you know, it's hard spending your Sunday meal prepping and shopping for groceries and setting your day, your week out for success. But what's difficult is feeling out of control every single night throughout the course of the week, because you have nothing to eat. You know what I'm saying? It's hard tracking every meal, every single day, every single macro micronutrient. But it's difficult not fitting into your clothes and pretending you're okay with it. And it's, and it's not. And like what's difficult is not being happy with the food you're eating and not feeling your best in your own skin because you're not putting the time and effort to track the food, you know? And. What's hard is saying no to the weekend drinks and the junk food and the events and all these things that you know aren't aligned with your goals. But what's even more difficult is lying to yourself that you'll start next Monday or that you'll start another time, or this is the last time we do X, Y, and z. You know, that applies to even drugs too.'cause I used to party a lot and it's hard. I, there's multiple weekends and months on end when I was like, man, I'll start next week. Or This is the last week. I'll have drinks or do this or do that. You know, it's difficult. It's hard saying no, but it was difficult dealing with my emotions behind that. You know? And again, like hard, what's hard is pushing through a tough workout when you're tired, pushing through a tough workout when you didn't eat enough that day, or pushing'em through a hard uh, workout when you're mentally just exhausted and chaotic. But what's difficult is having low energy all day and not feeling your best all day, or feeling lack of confidence'cause you don't feel good physically'cause you're not putting in the work.'cause your body isn't conditioned. It doesn't have that standard. That's why I'm a firm believer that work workouts in the morning, within reason, depending on what time you gotta be to your job and certain commitments in the day, is always best because the rest of the day gonna be what it is. You've won the first part and you feel the best, regardless of what chaos goes on, you feel good in that regard. You know? And another thing is, what's hard is asking for help, you know, or hiring a coach or, and meaning that you. Don't know certain information, you know, but what's difficult is going in circles for days, weeks, months, years on end, and stuck with the same problems. You know, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing. Over and over and over again and expecting a different result. Right? So it's hard to ask for help or hire a coach or hire a mentor or investing into things to get answers that you need to, but it's difficult going in circles and spinning your tires and not feeling like you're even fucking moving. You know what I mean? So there's a big, there's, there's a, there's a, there's a subtle shift there that gives a big impact as to. You know, committing to the change, understanding is not gonna be easy'cause it's hard. It's hard. Anything in life that's worth having is gonna be hard to obtain, but it's difficult not even trying because of what you gotta deal with. The reprimand on the other side of the fence when you don't even fucking put effort. The last part I got is what's hard is being honest with your self about your habits and owning your choices every single day, and taking ownership and embracing those emotions. But what's difficult is avoiding the truth and living your life low key, regretting it all. You know, there's that quote, that quote that says, people die 25, but they're not buried until they're 75. Is exactly why that, what is exactly what that means?'cause it's hard to be honest with yourself. It's hard to admit your habits. It's hard to admit to yourself some of the choices that you've been adding into your life that don't align with who you wanna become. So I get it. You know, we all get it. It's all hard. But what's hard or what's difficult, sorry, is avoiding the truth. Living your life in turmoil mentally, because you just know that you're not living to your full potential and you're just, you're just fearful of things. You know, you're fear, fearful of yourself. Imposter syndrome. You don't feel like you're worth it. You know, your self worth is low. You have insecurities. You're fear, fear, um, ju fear of judgment, fear of failure, all these different things, right? And it's hard to embrace those things. But again. You, we all know what we need to do. That's hard to get to the next level of our life. We all know what's hard in terms of tracking our macros or going to the gym or doing other things in our life that makes us wanna feel our best, like doing our journals and embracing these emotions and challenging our internal beliefs by reading and getting help and whatever it may be. But you know, if you want change, you gotta realize you gotta change who you are as a person. You know what I mean? So transformation is gonna feel uncomfortable the entire time you're chasing this new goal, whatever area of your life it is because you're cha trying to change who you are as a person to become another version of yourself that wants the next level. So it's uncomfortable as you transform that, you know, when you go to the gym, there's, you don't just miraculously go up and weight a hundred pounds. You don't just miraculously lose 30 pounds of fat or gain 10 pounds of muscle. It's as slow. Incremental change each day. It brings its own difficulty. That is hard. They, you just gotta embrace, but you know, whether you fold or you embrace it and show the fuck up. So one thing that I really want you guys to do for the entire 2026 is just be in the present moment. Be where your feet are at. Do the hard things that give you the guaranteed outcome that you're looking for, and don't overthink it. The same amount of time is gonna pass or not. So make it difficult on yourself and full to your emotions to really, really, really live a life that's full of turmoil and regret because you know you're not doing the work or do the hard things that fucking suck in the moment, but just do'em and be proactive and lead your life with that standard that you're proud of, you know? So that's all I got for today's episode. I appreciate you guys a ton. I won't lie, I'm fucking gassed from this fucking podcast right now, just from talking and, uh, walking in a couple circles. Um, but seriously, I appreciate you guys all a ton and if there's ever anything you guys need, obviously you guys know, just reach out. I always love having conversations about like, making sure we're taking over and, you know, if you guys listen to the episodes, you know, I, you know, how much support I got for you guys since you guys support me, but keep leading from the front and setting that standard and let's fucking go.