Life Update.. January is done, whats next?

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All right. Welcome back to another episode of the Extreme Lifestyle Living Podcast. Now. As you can tell, I'm sitting in a studio. I can't take credit for absolutely any of it because it's not mine. It's actually one of my good friends. Um, it's actually a setup. I'm actually being a bum and using it as often as I can'cause it's absolutely sick. But, you know, um, as you can tell, I'm in the studio and if you're listening to this, um, as audio as you guys always are, um, for the most part, I'm officially gonna commit to the rest of this year as to. Finally doing the podcast videos. It's been one of those things that a lot of people ask for. A lot of my clients ask for a lot of you guys that listen to the, um, podcast, ask for it and ask why I don't do them. And honestly, it's because it's a lot of extra work to be honest, and I'm just being honestly, incredibly fucking lazy when it comes to it. Um, and you know, honestly for the longest time I just convinced myself that other things were worth more of my time. But, um, now that I'm here and, you know, the entire topic of today's episode, I have it written out. Written down on a little bit of a sheet here so I can make sure that I stay focused. Because the big thing with when I do audio is I just get zoned out, go into my own lane, and the big thing I wanna focus on this year is being able to bring this version of myself to. Just to the community and to my clients. And I think a big thing that just gets in my way when I do the video is I overcomplicate just seeing myself and like, like I can see myself in the camera, I gotta look in the camera. There's other variables that I get to, there's other stressors, honestly. And you know, one big thing, as we all know, and I gotta practice, what I preach is in order to grow you gotta get uncomfortable. And it's uncomfortable doing this, you know? And I honestly feel like it takes away. Convinced myself of this for the longest time, that the video with me stressing about the stressors that it brings was taking away the impact and the value that I could bring to the, uh, to the episodes. And that's just because I was overcomplicating it, right? So I literally was like, fuck it, lemme just sit down. I literally just is how I operate. I got a little piece of paper, I write it on, write, like I literally ripped it over Emma's journal. She gets mad at me'cause I rip, I ripped them at the back and then she eventually gets there and then they're all fucking gone. Um, but it's just my, my my to-do list for the day. And what I did was I wrote a couple of notes as to what I want to talk about because when I do the audio podcast, I can just kind of like walk around and pace the room and I just kind of stay in my lane. And I do have some notes I usually go by and I just kind of walk by them, go back, walk by them. And even, to be honest, to be completely transparent. Sitting down doing the episode was contemplating that for like 20 minutes. Should I stand? Should I sit? I was all over the place. And even that in itself is stress. That's fucking just in the way for the episode, right? And you know, I just really wanna just bring a new level of the podcast to life. And the only way to do that is by going through the fucking uncomfortableness. But to jump in today's episode, literally, I'm gonna be as transparent and as vulnerable as I fucking can be. Got my pen, got my paper. I'm gonna hit all these fucking top all these topics. We're gonna get into it. Um, the, the biggest thing is just life update, you know? And even right there, honestly, the video, I was like, audio, I'm gonna cut that out, but in the video I'm just gonna fucking keep it there.'cause who gives a shit? Um, but life update, that's the topic of the episode. January is done. What the fuck is next? You know, tomorrow's February 1st. Actually, today's February 1st, um, when I'm recording at my laptops for here. And I got, uh, just obviously the recording stuff for the podcast on there. But it's February 1st. January's done, you know, so what's next? You know? So I wanna just give a big life update. I feel like I haven't done that. And a bit last time I did it, I believe I was in, uh, Mexico, just giving an update as to what it was like living there, my experiences and kind of what my, my game plan was there. And I think that was in October, was the last time we did that. So I want give like a life update and, you know, just talk about now that January's done. And before I get into my stuff, I wanna talk about you guys as listeners and viewers and as the community and just, you know, give you guys a, give yourselves a round of applause for making it through the month of January. Um, there's that joke saying that I finally made through, made it through the six months of January. You know, it's a joke'cause the January feels so long and I feel like the reason why it feels so long is because one, obviously we can all agree that there's, um, the, almost that midlife crisis, there's the, um, the New Year's goals, new Year's resolutions. All of us want to get the best kickstart to the year, feel our best, be able to look back on the year and be proud, which makes sense, right? So there's animosity and pressure of that, but also the back end of that, you're dealing with Boxing Day. Shenanigans. You're dealing with Christmas shenanigans. The month of December shenanigans. The holiday shenanigans. You have a lot of stuff that's going on and it's like you're very all over the place. Sporadic to within like a couple days, new Year's comes around. It's like, be the best version of your fucking self and don't miss a fucking beat when life was chaotic. Six to eight weeks prior, right? So you know the fact that you're done January, you show the fuck up, you come into your goals, you crossed your T's, you dotted i's you tried your best. That puts you in the top 10 percentile of winning the fucking rest of the year. And I know that's hard to kind of like really conceptualize and believe like, oh cool, I won one month of the year. How is that gonna show me that? How is that proven? I'm gonna win the next 12 or the next 11. And that's because most people have given up during January. January and committing to their goals. Literally the statistics show it's upwards of 90% of people fail before February even starts. So. Despite how you feel about your goals and where you think you should be and you know, you criticizing yourself of how much better you could be and what you failed on in January, the fact you're still present and in the arena and showing up shows that you are winning. That in itself is gonna give you more success than anything else in life to really give you, me being here, being able to do the podcast, and you know, even just like everything I else I got going on, life was just consistency. The backbone of it was consistency about staying in the arena no matter what the fuck's going on. And I locked the fuck in regardless of what it was. I still felt like shit. I still struggled. I still had, you know, trauma and turmoil and I went through my trials and tribulations. But staying in the con, uh, in the arena and staying consistent wins every single fucking time. So, you know, now that January's done. Pat your guys itself in the back for actually staying committed to it, and now it's about locking in and crushing the rest of the fucking year. So that's the first point. First talking point I wanted to get through. Excuse me. Um, the second one is like, okay, the first six months, you know, the first six months of, of 2026, what have we doing and what, what do I got going on? So as of today, I am 17 weeks away from my bodybuilding show that I'm committed to. A lot of you guys that have been following me for a long time know that my entire goal in the gym as of last little bit, has been getting as big and as strong as I can for the bodybuilding show. So when I. Cut down for it. I'll be at least 10 to 15 pounds heavier on stage than I was prior, previously. So it's, it's February 1st, 2026 right now. Um, the last show I did was in May of 2023, so that would've been actually when I compete and finally step on stage. It'll be damn near two years to the date since I stepped on stage. So for the next six months up until May, June, which takes us into the six month marker, I'm entirely locked into the bodybuilding show. That is my main goal right now is the bodybuilding show I've been on. Just really just bulking and really trying to get all of my imbalances and my injuries figured out so when I do get into another prep, I can give it 110% of my efforts. If you've been here for a while, you know, my experiences with prep, I've always was either like dealing with injuries or life variables, whatever it may be. There's something that had. Me not being able to go 110% like I wanted to do. You know what I mean? So now that I've taken so much time the last two years to get myself in a position to focus, that is all I'm focusing on. The next six months is just my bodybuilding shows. I don't have anything else in mind. I'm still gonna work focused on my clients, focused on my community, and I have other goals I'm gonna share. That's like all year round that what I'm doing. But for the next six months, I'll side a bigger picture, things that I'm gonna share in a bit. It's just a bodybuilding show. I know that may sound cheesy and not even cheesy, but I know that may sound like, oh, that's too simple. But that's all I'm fucking focused on. Like I can't stress it enough. I had two or three client calls the last five, six days, um, or last three days, sorry. And you know, like, I just couldn't reiterate to them enough, the simplicity behind just doing the meal prep, doing the work, and doing, like focusing on the journey, not the goal. And that's what I'm doing now. So I'm not focused on the goal of competing in six months. I'm focused on the next six months is for that. So it's the journey of the next six months. That's all that's gonna be relevant is a bodybuilding show. I'm not gonna miss this fucking beat. I'm not gonna miss my calories, I'm not gonna miss my steps. I'm not gonna miss my cardio. I'm not gonna miss my workouts because it's so fucking rewarding. Getting to that stage day and that show day, knowing you look back and you didn't fucking miss a beat. And that's why I'm excited to do it because I like, again, I never played sports, so. I never did anything competitive growing up. I played Call of Duty and played video games, but it wasn't competitive to the nature of like sports, you know, not until nowadays when you play competitive video games, which I never got into, just played them as I'm a leisure and as a kid growing up. So I never had anything competitive. So when I got into bodybuilding, just. Going through my fitness goals, I kept progressing, kept hitting new levels. Eventually I ended up doing a show organically'cause I needed that next, that next, that next test. And I fell in love with it instantly because of the you versus you attitude it brings. And for me personally, o side of business, o side of my clients, o side of mine, and Emma's life, my personal life with the family. I need something that's gonna fucking just really make me feel like I'm like, that, that brings that dog under me. You know, the last time I tested that was when I did the show last time. I felt that way was when I was trying to grind out on my career and get, get this whole thing kind of started working with the clients, working with the podcasts, doing things online. Um, and I wanna feel that me versus me dog mentality where there's no one at fault other than. And that fire just like lights, that just lights something on in me that it just gets me. That's so fucking, like, just, I love it and I'm already dialed into it. Today I had a meeting with my coach that I'm gonna start working with. Um,'cause you know, I gotta practice what I preach. If I'm telling people to have coaches. I could have one myself, and I'm, I'm a very firm believer of that. You always wanna have people in your corner that are doing things that you want to do that can help you accelerate your growth and progress. It's not about ego and you know, taking away from anyone else. It's about if you have the answers, I'm willing to ask the questions if you're willing to gimme the time of day. And it's mutual, right? Um, and the energy is reciprocal. So honestly, for the first six months, it's all I got focused on. That'll take me until May 25th as my show date. Um, and it gets into June. Now that may sound pretty like standard, like, oh, that's, that's all we're doing, but that's it. It's gonna take up all my time. Other than that, I'm still gonna be focused on my, like, you know, the weekly podcasts. I like clients, I, my community and all in that regard. But that's the main thing. For the first six months before I just talk about bigger picture years and things. The second six months. So after I done my show, June, July, August, September, November, December, those areas, um, and the reason why I'm explaining it to you this way is because I'm, I'm, I'm really wanna show you guys how often I reflect and plan my year. If you've been here for a while, you know, I talk about daily reflections, weekly reflections, monthly reflections, quarterly reflections, every six months, reflections, and then a year reflection If you do that. You're gonna be so crystal clear as to what you need to do, when you need to do it, and how you need to do it. So that way there, your life can become predictable from the standpoint of what you wanna get outta life. Which is why this may sound simple, but it's very calculated, which is, which means it's just super fucking clear, you know? But after I'm done competing, honestly, you just wanna travel and see the fucking world. Like, you know, living in Mexico, obviously, as you guys know, being here for a while has changed my fucking life beyond my own comprehension. I love the hell of it. It was absolutely amazing. Um, but. Uh, now it's about how can I recreate that all of the time? So we were gonna go back to Mexico, um, for February and March, you know, obviously when we were back in Mexico. But just getting home, getting set up and thinking about bigger picture goals. Not short short, not short term. Obviously short term, it's easy to say. Mostly fucking want to go. Like it's, it's sunny down there, it's 30 plus degrees. I can wear a t-shirt every fucking day. I don't get sick. Like it's, it's way better in so many different areas. Um, but, you know, short term, paying for long-term gain is kind of the motto this year that me and Emma have is short term, paying long-term gain campaign, is what we're calling it. Um, but you know, what we, we were thinking is like, let's figure out the bigger picture. We can go away for six months or nine months or 10 months, you know, like what does that process look like? So we've been having meetings and calls with financial investments, uh, visa people, you know, tax people and accountants to make sure we can get all of our affairs in order. So when we want to go again, we can go. So our plan was always this fall to go to Europe. I don't know if you guys know anything about it, but the Europe, um, the flights to Europe from Canada right now are insanely cheap. The round trips you can catch'em at good times, usually around the fall. Um, we wanna go to Portugal, we wanna go to Italy, we wanna go to Spain, we wanna go to Germany, we wanna go to Croatia, um, you know, Amsterdam, Switzerland, like all these places we want to go to. And a lot of the round trips to get to Europe are like$300, which again, I know it's still expensive, but again, when I went to Europe and. 2017 it was 1500 just to get there and back. Once you're over in Europe, it's very easy to travel. So honestly, the next six months after that, so June, July, and August is really just about enjoying Summer being home, reversing out to the Buddy building show to make sure that I'm doing good. I wanna do two shows by the way. So like, um, the first show I'm gonna do is just to qualify me for nationals. Then I'm gonna get into national. Um, the second show, which should be like June, July area. And then after that it's just about enjoying the summer, being present with the friends and family. September, October, um, month, uh, give or take, you know, a couple weeks in between there is when we want to, you know, fly to Europe and hopefully stay in Europe for, you know, October, November. And come home for December and then, you know, maybe around that time, give or take where, where it's at. Maybe look at a six month contract in Mexico to go back and live there for a bit. The best case scenario would be December, November, December to get a contract down there.'cause then it'd be six months we could be done, you know, come around April, may of the following year. We've been, come back for the spring and the summer and enjoy ourselves. And that's pretty much the plan. You know, those are the only plans we have on paper in terms of like the year for, um, for how we break it down. And that's how I break it down. That's why I wrote it that way and that's why I'm talking about it that way. Excuse me, is because I look at it from like, you know, January, you, you crush January. You don't think of any other month other than January. You know, and if you like, you know, take a couple steps back. If you, if you did the game properly, did your vision board, you've been playing, playing like, you know, planning methodically app appropriately based on your goals and how much you care about'em. You should be, you should have started January with what you already want to do this year. Then in January you just focus on January and show the fuck up and absolute dial in and crush it. And then once you finish January, which it is now, then you reflect, hey, how the wealth did, I did January.'cause again, we can sit here and talk about our entire year, but if we're not even fucking showing up the first month. What's the point of talking about the rest of the year, what you're gonna get done if you're not even doing the work in the beginning. So after you crush January, get that outta the way, which will I celebrate it at the beginning of the episode. You're fucking in the clear. Do you know what I mean? So now it's aou. Okay, now what's the first six months look like? What's the second six months look like? So now we have our, our goal post as to where we're going. Add rough idea as to long, long term, you know, come like, you know, summertime and into the fall. So we have clarity as to what we're moving towards. And then we have short term, um, next six months as to what we're working on. And then, you know, as I do my daily, weekly, monthly check-ins, this is all subjective to change. You know what I mean? But, um, the big reason why we wanna travel and stuff too is like, you know, to see the culture and, you know, before we settled down. You know, I'm 31, I'll be turning 32 in, um, in November. November. Fucking Christ, my birthday's September, I'll be turning 32 in, uh, September. Emma will be, I think 30 this April. So we're getting up there, right? And all of our friends, for the most part that are, I don't wanna say old school, but like you're getting married, getting ki having kids and buying houses, and that's just not in our cards right now. We just don't have the desire to do that. We wanna see cultures, we want to explore the world, and we wanna do all these things before we settle down and have. Family and buy a house and buy land and stuff. We don't wanna be doing that when we're later, like, you know, we're both on the same page that enjoy the fuck out of our lives now and then when we have our kids, like be a hundred percent present with our kids. And also not to sound, not,'cause again, I'm gonna say this, I feel like people take it the wrong way, but. We also wanna build a bigger, better foundation for our kids so we can have a lifestyle with our kids that many people don't have. And what I mean by that is I'm not trying to work nine to five and be stressed out and have limited time and just, you know, be running home and hang with my kids reactively. You know, like I want to be present of my kids' lives. I want them to have a life that's not typical where they're just fucking clocking and clocking out and depressed and just live in this typical lifestyle. Like I want them to see the world as well. I want to take them around the world. I want to have us have an abundant family and efficient just. Fucking just lovely life. Do you know what I mean? And like I want to create that freedom for it, which is a big part of why I'm working on my business and very goal oriented and stuff like that, right? But, um, at this point now, like at the end of January, you should know exactly what you guys wanna do for the rest of the year. And, you know, my bigger goals, like for my all year focus, a big thing for me is pod this podcast. I gotta take it to the next level. I've been releasing weekly fucking episodes, literally for three or four years. It's, it's just, it's a big part of who I am. Um, and I just gotta start taking it more serious. And I want to get into public speaking. I would love to get into like, you know, if I was, it was, if I was able to do a TED Talk or like, even like a guest speaker gig, like, I think that would be fucking incredible. And now this year is when I'm, I'm focusing on that. That's all I understand. Like, I don't even know what that looks like. I don't know how to get into it. I don't know who I need to talk to. I don't know what I need to do, but I know if I at least start putting my podcast in a different level of importance compared to what I'm holding it to currently, I know that it'll put me in the right trajectory. And that's just me being super honest about my goals for this year. Like, I don't know, I want to get in public speaking. I would love to do talking gigs, um, at facilities and corporations and, you know, whatever it may be. But I, and I don't know how that's gonna happen, but this is me telling you that this year that's a pro focus of mine. And one way I'm doing that is focusing on the podcast. Is making sure I can show up and making sure I'm released. Like I said at the beginning, getting uncomfortable and doing the shit that I gotta do. Another thing too, and this is more of a business goal that I have this year, um, but it also organically falls in line with the podcast and how I hold myself online and with my community and my clients, and honestly me as a person is marketing and branding. I'm really big on this year on marketing because I want to make sure, like, you know, selfishly I want to be able to have a client lead flow to make sure that I can retire and hang with my kids and not have to work all the time. Like, working right now is super fun and efficient, but you know, do I wanna do this on a 41, 51, 61? Most likely not. So how do I market myself and brand myself to a, get a different level of outcome from that standpoint? I don't know what that looks like. I know being on social media deal, it's with content posting on Instagram, posting on TikTok and all these platforms. But again, doing that in a way that makes it me. Feel fulfilled, but also understanding that I'm getting people attracted to what I, who like, you know, people that we all give a fuck up with each other. You know what I mean? Like, you know, not all good money. Not all money is good money. So it's like I don't wanna have a hundred thousand followers and have a bunch of people like trying to throw money at me. It's not what I want. I want to grow in a business in terms of having a community that people like listen to the podcast and talk about mental health and support each other in uplifting and you know, obviously selfishly some clients in there, but you know, I just gotta get better at marketing and branding myself. And I feel like that's why the podcast is so. It's great for me'cause it's an organic way for me to be the best version of myself and showcase what I do and how I do and how I operate. And I know organically with the podcast, the marketing brain is gonna take care of itself, but that's a big focus as well. Like I've been posting on Instagram, posting on Instagram almost every day for like five, six years. Do you know what I mean? So it's about time I just take that to the next level and just fucking take the next level. Just like I said, getting uncomfortable is a theme. Right? And then the last thing is just, you know, financial future. Uh, we've been having a lot of meetings with, um, just people about investments, about like, you know, like, you know what, what's my life look like? I want a 41, 51, 61, 71 in retirement, and those things. And the reason why I'm doing that is'cause one, it's super fucking uncomfortable. Two. It's uncomfortable because no one's fucking told me about any of this stuff growing up. Like most people that I worked with or lived with, not worked with, or I lived with, was on social assistance or like welfare and never really had a job or created a business to create their own financial freedom. So it's not only uncomfortable because it's finances, and finances equal emotions, but it's also uncomfortable because I feel like I gotta learn for a generational fucking trauma and reroute it. Do you know what I mean? And then the other thing too is it's money. Like, like I run my own business. I don't have CPP or old age security investments or like all these different things. I have to manually do that myself with the money that I make. So if I just stop working and don't get paid, there's no EI for me. There's no CPP, there's none of that stuff unless I have it set up. So I gotta get that stuff set up. To make sure that my future is set up and a standard that I can be fucking have the house, have the car, have the kids, uh, financial stuff for the kids and take care of myself. Right. Um, and that's just a big focus this year as well, so I can finally turn that page and be a little bit of a, more of an adult, if that makes sense. But that's honestly how it got, I feel like it's been a while since they gave you guys a big update. And I think of a handful of my clients that I work with every single, um, week and day that I talk to, that listen to my podcast, to gimme feedback, which is why I share certain things the way they do, because I know if it's impacting the people that I'm working with and impacting the people that are on my Instagram or social media that don't work with directly, then I know if I just put more time and energy into talking about things that I know matter to certain. Select a group of individuals. Eventually the quantity of that group will get bigger and more people will support and more people will speak up. But I know I always get a bunch of feedback from you guys when I just sit here and share my life and talk off my brain as to what I'm going through. No structure, no like trying to teach you guys anything tactical or anything. I just kind of share what I'm doing for the next year and I love that style of podcasting and just giving you guys that information because I think it's absolutely incredible that I can sit here and just talk about what I wanna do with my life. Talk about what I have done with my life and just share those experiences and give that impact because the, the fact that I'm sitting here and doing this is an absolute fucking dream come true. And that's why, you know, the theme of being uncomfortable is super important right now for me with, you know, getting uncomfortable for the bodybuilding show, getting uncomfortable for the podcast, getting uncomfortable with the, uh, financial conversations is because. If you can stay uncomfortable, then you know you're gonna continue to grow and nothing in life comes easy. And anything that is hard or difficult usually gives you discomfort, but it is always worth it in the end. You know, it's not easy to get an education. It's not easy to get a good, happy relationship. It's not easy to make a bunch of money. It's not easy to fucking play sports to go to the gym. It takes hardship to get on. You got takes long periods of uncomfortable times to grow into these versions of herself. So I want to continue to grow and be the best version of myself. This is what I gotta do. And then on the other side, I get to give you guys that impact, to share that stuff that I'm dealing with this stuff just as much as anyone else's, you know? And I love that you guys put me on a pedestal sometimes from the clients that I work with. I mean more so I'm just like. Oh, how do you do it? How do you stay, stay, stay so consistent and all these different things. And it's like, I just, because I, I reflect, I'm sitting here, I'm articulate on and clear as to what I'm doing, so I know why I'm going through what I'm going through. And that alone is, like I said at the beginning, being consistent at the two variables there. Consistency and clarity. You have those and you're, you're, you're undeniable. Your success is, is literally undeniable if you just show the fuck up and have a clarity as to where you're going. And eventually you'll understand what you need to do, what you don't need to do, X, Y, and Z. But honestly, that's all I got. Um, yeah, a lot of new things coming up. Podcasting, I wanna start doing the fucking do the videos on the God fucking time. And, uh, as the audio, you know, there will always be releases as well. But I'm excited to just get into this next chapter of the life and just see what the fuck happens, what it comes out of. I have no expectations beside I know I gotta be uncomfortable and show the fuck up. So other than that, I hope you guys have a blessed motherfucking week. Keep showing up. Lean from the front and let's fucking go.